Yesterday I was judged and made to feel that I was all kinds of wrong and unworthy of anyone's time, consideration or professional courtesy by one of my coaches. What he found wrong with me was that:
I "mother" people ['cause being kind and thoughtful was wrong]
I worry too much [asking that you text when you're running late or a no show is wrong]
I say "I'm sorry" too much [so next time I step on you I'll say something else]
I allowed myself to grieve for far too long [Wow! I didn't know grief had a timeline]
I didn't have skin cancer in 2008 it' all in your head [So I guess the biopsy & subsequent treatment I endured was all a fake huh?]
I needed to explain why I took a job where I sat all day instead a lower paying one where I was more active. [Seriously??? Do you not realize you're my employee]
I only need to look at myself in the mirror to see what my problem is…" [This negative mantra has come up in our last 2 calls as well.]
There was 1 more thing I was being "wrong" about, but by then I'd begun to emotionally shut down.
Oh yeah, the last and 9th judgment was that I "shut down" when I'm being challenged. How about that. I shut up and shut down when I'm being judged, shamed, insulted and rejected for where I currently am in my process.
So if you stumble onto this post, because you're trying to figure out how to find a good coach. the next post will show you what a good one really is Otherwise you can continue reading this post and learn how to stay away from a crazy one from day 1.
